Keeping it real” has become one of those overused phrases from pop culture. Earlier on another popular phrase with the same meaning, “telling it like it is,” was overused. For the most part, I’ve observed that both of these phrases usually followed the deliverance of “truth” that the recipient found unpleasant to hear. People who keep it real share their authentic selves fully, presenting themselves, as they truly are, the good parts and the parts most of us would rather hide. They don’t put up barriers from fear of how they might be perceived, or present a false self in order to appear more perfect, more powerful, or more independent.
We live in a culture that lends credence to the illusion of our need to look younger and thinner, and to become wealthier and more successful. We are bombarded with images of this false perception at every turn. Perhaps the masquerade of being bigger, better, or more exciting garners temporary external rewards, but being in the presence of authentic individuals reminds us of our internal suffering and fear of not being good enough.
Authentic people are not trying to be something more than they are. They walk into a room and bring a feeling of ease and warmth with them, acknowledging personal eccentricities and limitations without putting themselves down. Presenting themselves as they truly are, gives us permission to be real. In their presence, we feel safe enough to take off our masks, let go of our own defenses, relax for a moment in the truth of who we really are. Some of us may have to work harder at letting go of pretenses than others, but eventually the barriers will come down, and the masks removed.
It can be scary, but the reward for taking such a risk is the unveiling of true authenticity and keeping it real.
From My Heart to Yours,
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